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Four Fabulous Tips on How to Be Happy

by Cindy Gray

Looking for secrets on how to become happier?  Thomas Jefferson wrote in the Declaration of Independence that: “We hold these truths to be sacred and undeniable; that all men are created equal and independent, that from that equal creation they derive rights inherent and inalienable, among which are the preservation of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”  

Helpful Tips on Becoming Happier.

Looking for secrets on how to become happier?  Thomas Jefferson wrote in the Declaration of Independence that: “We hold these truths to be sacred and undeniable; that all men are created equal and independent, that from that equal creation they derive rights inherent and inalienable, among which are the preservation of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” 

The fact that our founding fathers incorporated the notion that we have a right to pursue happiness emphasizes the importance of striving for happiness.  Happiness as a state of being is not as hard to achieve as some might think.  Of course, it’s unlikely that you will be happy ALL the time, but in general you can have a happy life if you follow these four simple tips:

1. Think Happy To Be Happy

How simple is that? You just have to think about being happy to be so. Happiness is a state of mind, a choice anyone can make.  If you make a conscious choice to choose happy thoughts, you can begin doing things that make you feel good; you can become more drawn to happier people; and become increasingly conscious of focusing your thoughts on positive thoughts. Feeling happy feels good!   

2. Make Others Happy

It’s sounds strange but true; according to research, doing things for others to make them feel happy directly affects how happy you are.  It makes sense. How can you spread happiness to others if you are not happy?  You can’t make someone feel happy, and no one can make you feel happy. However, you can choose to be happy and share that with others who will gladly accept your “gift” because they are choosing to be happy too.

3. You Are ONLY The Boss Of You, Not Anyone Else.

Happiness lies in knowing that you can only change yourself. Only you are responsible for your feelings, actions and reactions, no one else. Conversely, you cannot change others, make different choices for them or control their actions or reactions. Once you embrace that you are free to focus on your own happiness and let go of the burden of trying to make anyone else happy. They have to learn how to be happy on their own.

3. Live In the Present

By choosing to live in the present and let go of the past and stop worrying about the future, you put yourself on the road to happiness. You cannot change the past. You cannot predict the future.  Right now is where you can choose to be happy, or not, despite what has happened or what might happen.  Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday! Let it go, let it be; open the gift of the present.

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The Happiness Myth

Psychology Today published 7 Myths About Happiness that lends support to these tips by saying, “Overwhelming research, however, reveals that there is no magic formula for happiness and no sure course toward misery. “

That’s good news. You are not destined for misery, and while there are no guarantees, knowing what beliefs to let go of that may be keeping you from feeling happy with your life can free you up to learn how to be happy.

The most common myth about happiness is that you will find it outside of yourself, such as in another person like a spouse or partner.  Refer to tip number three: only you are responsible for your own happiness.

Many people believe that having their “dream job” is a guarantee of happiness. No job, paycheck or promotion can make you happy if you are not content on the inside.  Pursuing personal growth in your career and using it to offer happiness to others will help you reach toward a state of bliss, not what it says on your resume or the amount of money in your bank account.

The worst myth about happiness is the belief that as you get older the best years of your life will be behind you. Just getting older is a great reason to be happy. Not everyone gets that privilege.  Research has found that older people are actually more satisfied with their lives and feel happier on average, than younger members of society.  This is probably due to the fact that “their emotional experience is more stable and less sensitive to the vicissitudes of daily negativity and stress.”

 In other words, like tip number one, they make a conscious daily effort to choose to be happy.

To recap on a happy note, you can learn how to be happy. Take these four tips and start applying them to your life every day, while letting go of the myths that may be holding you back from your greatest joy.

 

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